Online Perfectionism Therapy for Adults
Serving 43 states via PSYPACT
for HIGH-ACHIEVING adults who look put together on the OUTSIDE BUT feel exhausted AF from holding everything together on the inside.
Let’s be honestYou’ve been keeping your entire life upright using sheer force of will.
Perfectionism isn't always color-coded calendars and spotless countertops. Sometimes it looks like spending 45 minutes rewriting an email that should have taken five. Putting off something you're completely capable of doing because you're not sure you can do it perfectly. Saying “I'll just do it myself” because trusting someone else to do it differently feels harder than adding one more thing to your plate. Or finally sitting down to rest and immediately thinking about everything you should be doing instead.
I provide online therapy for high-achieving adults whose perfectionism shows up as chronic self-pressure, overthinking, overfunctioning, procrastination, guilt around rest, and tying their worth to productivity or performance.
To everyone else, you’re:
The responsible one.
The capable one.
The go-to person because “you always get it done.”
But inside?
You’re tired.
Tired of proving your worth.
Tired of chasing standards that never let you rest.
Tired of holding things together because “if I don’t do it, it won’t be done right.”
Perfectionism may have helped you succeed, butttttt it’s also left you feeling pressured, constrained, and emotionally exhausted.
And eventually, the cost starts showing up everywhere.
You procrastinate because starting means risking getting it wrong.
You overprepare because being caught off guard feels unbearable.
You struggle to delegate, then resent how much you're carrying.
You accomplish something big and barely let yourself enjoy it before moving the goalpost again.
You crave rest, but when you finally get it, you can't actually relax.
You may be incredibly good at getting things done. The problem is how much it's costing you to keep doing them this way.
When you are ready to put down the emotional barbell, schedule your free consultation now
Perfectionism Is Something I Understand Professionally AND Personally
As a licensed clinical psychologist who works with high-achieving professionals, creatives, caregivers, and deeply driven adults, I know the inner world of perfectionism well:
Craving reassurance, then being annoyed with yourself for needing it
Wanting help but thinking, “It'll be easier if I just do it myself”
Finally resting, then spending the entire time feeling guilty about resting
Turning a 20-minute task into a two-hour production because something still feels “off”
Hearing “this is good enough” and translating it as “this isn't good”
And full transparency?
I’m a perfectionist in recovery myself.
I create A LOT! Therapy handouts, digital coloring books, affirmation decks, jewelry, self-help books and EPPP materials. I know how quickly perfectionism can hijack even the things you love. One crooked line can spark a total redo. One typo can steal hours.
So when you say you’re stuck tweaking, over-functioning, or avoiding starting because the pressure feels overwhelming, I get it. I’ve lived it, I work with it, and I know what it’s like to want out of the loop without wanting to dim your brilliance.
Your patterns make sense and you deserve support that does too.
What We May Work Toward in Perfectionism Therapy
Rest starts to feel restorative instead of guilty
Delegating doesn’t automatically feel like a disaster
Productivity stops defining your worth
Ease stops feeling like you’re entering the danger zone
Belonging and love stop feeling like something you have to earn
I am not here to “fix” you (because you are not broken).
And I am definitely not here to tell you to “lower your standards” (perfectionists flippin’ hate that shit!).
So How Do We Actually Get You There?
We don't just talk about why you're a perfectionist and send you back into the world hoping insight magically fixes it.
We start noticing the pattern earlier. The moment a reasonable task turns into a production. The moment “I'd prefer it this way” becomes “it HAS to be this way.” The moment rest starts triggering guilt or someone else's mistake suddenly feels like your responsibility to fix.
Then we practice something different.
Maybe that's sending the email after two rereads instead of 12. Letting someone help without quietly redoing their work afterward. Finishing something at 90% and noticing that the world does not, in fact, burst into flames. Resting before you've “earned” it. Or catching the inner critic before one imperfect moment becomes evidence that you are failing at life.
The goal isn't simply to tell yourself to stop being a perfectionist. We get curious about what perfectionism is doing for you in the first place. What does getting it right protect you from? Criticism? Rejection? Feeling out of control? Feeling like you're not enough? Once we understand the job perfectionism has been doing, we can start building other ways to meet that need without requiring you to exhaust yourself.
Those reps matter. Insight helps you understand the pattern. Practice helps your brain learn that another response is actually safe and available.
Evidence-Based Therapy Without Squeezing You Into a Box
I draw from evidence-based approaches including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), mindfulness-based approaches, and other strategies based on what you're actually struggling with.
That might mean learning to challenge all-or-nothing thinking without arguing with yourself for 45 minutes. Practicing distress tolerance when something isn't going according to plan. Learning to notice a thought without automatically treating it like an instruction. Building boundaries when overfunctioning has become your default. Or making room for discomfort while you practice doing something imperfectly on purpose.
The modality matters. But what matters more is whether you can actually use what we're practicing when perfectionism shows up outside the therapy room.
Clients often tell me:
“You see the parts I hide from everyone else”
“You hold me accountable without making me feel ashamed.”
“You help me see progress I never would’ve noticed on my own.”
Your perfectionism has had the mic long enough. Take a step towards dropping it.
“Perfectionism is not the belief that you can be better. It’s the belief that you’re never enough.”
- Brené Brown, Ph.D.
Frequently Asked Questions About Online Perfectionism Therapy
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If your standards are running your life instead of supporting it, that’s enough.
If rest feels unsafe.
If mistakes feel catastrophic.
If your worth rises and falls based on productivity.
If you can’t celebrate wins because you’re already chasing the next thing.I work best with adults who are high-functioning but emotionally exhausted, people who look competent on the outside yet feel constant internal pressure on the inside.
You do not need to be falling apart to deserve support. You just need to be tired of living under relentless self-pressure.
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I work with perfectionism that shows up as:
Chronic self-criticism
Overfunctioning in relationships
Difficulty delegating
Guilt around rest
Tying identity to achievement
Procrastination fueled by fear of imperfection
People-pleasing rooted in worth insecurity
Burnout from never feeling “done”
You do not need a formal diagnosis. Many of my clients are successful professionals, caregivers, creatives, or leaders whose perfectionism once helped them succeed, but now keeps them stuck.
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Not necessarily.
Perfectionism and Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) can look similar, but they are not the same.
If you experience intrusive thoughts, ritualistic behaviors, or compulsions that feel uncontrollable and time-consuming, you may need specialized OCD treatment.
I do not provide intensive OCD treatment. If that is your primary concern, I can help guide you toward appropriate care.
If your struggle is more about internal pressure, fear of failure, over-responsibility, or achievement-driven worth, this is likely the right space.
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Sessions are 50 minutes via secure video. I provide online therapy to adults physically located in Texas, Florida, and PSYPACT-participating states where I'm authorized to practice.
Our work is active, collaborative, and practical. We'll understand where your perfectionism came from while also practicing ways to respond differently when it shows up in everyday life.
We build flexibility, not mediocrity.
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Nope!
The goal is not to dull your drive or ambition. Many of my clients are high-achieving and care deeply about doing meaningful work.
The goal is to reduce fear-based motivation and replace it with sustainable, self-respecting effort.
You can still aim high.
You just won’t have to hate yourself on the way there. -
That makes sense.
Perfectionism often developed as protection, from criticism, chaos, rejection, or feeling not enough.
We do not rip that coping strategy away.
We slowly build alternatives that feel safer and more sustainable. Control doesn’t disappear overnight. It softens as trust increases.
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This practice does not provide:
Crisis or emergency services
Care for active suicidal intent
Court-ordered treatment
Intensive or higher-level psychiatric care
Treatment for unmanaged substance dependence
Specialized treatment for severe OCD requiring exposure-based protocols
If you are in crisis, please seek emergency care. If you’re unsure whether your needs fall within this scope, we can discuss that during a consultation.
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No. I do not prescribe medication.
If medication may be helpful for anxiety, depression, or related concerns, I’m happy to collaborate with your prescribing provider. Therapy and medication can work well together, but medication is never required to begin this work.
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I am a private-pay practice.
Payment is due at the time of service. If you have out-of-network benefits, I can provide a superbill for possible reimbursement.
For many of the adults I work with, choosing a therapist who deeply understands their particular patterns matters more than choosing from a limited insurance network.
Some clients choose private pay because it offers flexibility and allows treatment decisions to be guided by clinical needs rather than insurance requirements.
We can discuss whether this feels like a sustainable investment during your consultation.
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It depends on how long perfectionism has been running the show.
Some clients benefit from short-term work focused on specific patterns like procrastination or burnout. Others choose longer-term therapy to address identity, relationships, and self-worth at a deeper level.
We move at a pace that feels steady and respectful. The goal isn’t to become a different person, it’s to feel freer inside the life you’re already building.
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Absolutely. Perfectionism often overlaps with anxiety, ADHD, people-pleasing, rejection sensitivity, and fear of making mistakes.
For someone with anxiety, perfectionism may look like overpreparing, overthinking, checking, or trying to eliminate every possible way something could go wrong.
For some adults with ADHD, perfectionism can become a way of compensating for feeling forgetful, inconsistent, disorganized, or afraid of being judged. You may procrastinate because the task feels enormous, then rely on urgency and intense effort to pull it off at the last minute.
Part of our work is figuring out what's actually driving your perfectionism, because the same behavior can serve very different purposes.
Ready for Your Standards to Stop Running Your Life?You, courageous human, are in the right place!
You don't have to give up your ambition to make room for ease. Let's help you build a healthier relationship with pressure, worth, rest, and “good enough.”
Before you reach out, here’s a quick note about scope and safety:
Online counseling is not appropriate for all concerns. This practice does not provide crisis or emergency services, care for active suicidality, court-ordered treatment, or higher-level/intensive services.
If you are in crisis or experiencing suicidal thoughts, please seek immediate help by calling 911, going to your nearest emergency room, calling the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255, or texting HOME to 741741 to connect with a Crisis Counselor.
