Let’s Break Up With
Perfectionism, Shall We?
Because pretending to have it all together is exhausting and you’re over it.
You’re the one everyone counts on. The one who makes the plans, holds it all down, and somehow still says yes even when your tank’s been on E since last week. You juggle a never-ending to-do list, answer every “Can you just…?”, and beat yourself up when anything falls through the cracks.
On the outside? You look like you’ve got it together.
On the inside? You’re drowning in mental tabs, spiraling over every decision, and constantly trying to prove you’re doing enough.
Welcome to perfectionism. It’s sneaky. It’s loud. And it’s lying to you.
“Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life. Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it’s often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis.”
~ Brene Brown
Put a Wrench in Perfectionism’s Playlist.
Your Best is the NEW Perfect!
WLet me guess, you’re stuck on the People-Pleasing Greatest Hits loop:
- Overthinking simple decisions (like what to eat or how to word an email)
- Seeking approval even when you know what you want
- Agreeing to do things you don’t have the capacity for, just to avoid disappointing people
- Feeling shame when you’re not being “productive enough”
- Let’s hit pause on that playlist and create a new one together: “Exhale Doubt: You’ve Got This, Inside and Out”
Productivity ≠ Worth. Read That Again.
The praise for how much you do? It doesn’t tell the full story.
Yes, you get shit done. But the real reason you’re always busy? Avoiding the guilt that creeps in when you even think about slowing down. Rest feels indulgent. Saying no feels risky. And honestly? You don’t trust who you are without the doing is enough.
Let’s get really honest:
– You’re running yourself ragged trying to be “good enough”
– You feel guilty putting yourself first even when you know you’re running on fumes
– You don’t even know what real rest feels like anymore
– And deep down, you’re scared that if you stop… EVERYTHING might fall apart
But here’s the truth:
You’re not “lazy” for needing a break.
You’re not selfish for wanting more for yourself.
And your value? Not defined by your productivity!
Your Inner Critic is Loud, But We’re Louder.
Therapy with me is where we:
Call out the perfectionist lies for what they are
Get curious about what’s really driving that need to over-function
Explore what rest, ease, and self-trust might actually feel like in your body
Practice new patterns that leave room for mistakes AND joy
Build a life that is sustainable, not just impressive
No more performing calm while secretly spiraling.
No more confusing burnout with being “driven, ambitious, or insert whatever word you have been using.”
No more pushing through exhaustion and pretending that’s just what strong people do.
Therapy to Embrace the Messy Journey
of Overcoming Perfectionism with
Compassion
“You are magnificent beyond measure, perfect in your imperfections, and wonderfully made.”
– Abiola Abrams
Therapy for Perfectionists in Texas, Florida and *most* of the United States
Let’s find the version of you that doesn’t need to earn rest anymore.
You courageous human, have come to the right place!
What You'll Learn in Therapy for Perfectionism with Dr. Vincent:
Unpack where perfectionism came from and why it’s been so damn loud
Set better boundaries (even when it feels terrifying)
Learn how to stop the black-and-white thinking that keeps you stuck
Shift that inner dialogue from “I’m not doing enough” to “I’m already enough”
Work through the fear of failure without beating yourself up
Figure out how to rest before your body forces you to.
Helping you is what I do.
Therapy with Me Is Like Driving a Car—But You’re in Control
YOU are in the driver’s seat. You get to choose where we’re headed.
Want to set realistic goals that you can actually accomplish and still feel like the productive, high-achieving badass you are?
Or maybe you’re ready to feel great about your work being good enough, instead of stuck in “if it’s not perfect, it’s not worth it” mode?
I’m your professional GPS. I’ve got multiple routes to get you where you want to go.
Some are smooth and scenic. Others are bumpy or take a little longer.
But together, we’ll figure out what path works best for you.
Just like Waze or Google Maps, I’ll help you spot the emotional roadblocks ahead, reroute around burnout, and find detours when life throws a curveball.
But unlike Waze, my GPS comes fully loaded with:
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Honest feedback (with kindness)
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Insight you won’t find on TikTok
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Tools that actually work for the way your brain runs
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Encouragement and a consistent presence, no matter the weather
This all starts by:
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Getting uncomfortable in a safe, supportive way
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Building a relationship where your boundaries matter
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Connecting with someone who can handle #allyourfeels
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Letting yourself be fully seen without judgment
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Having someone who actually shows up for you every time
We’ll experiment. We’ll tweak. And we’ll keep adjusting until we find the route that feels right—for you, your nervous system, and your real-ass life.
Disclaimer
Online counseling is not appropriate for all kinds of problems.
If you are in crisis or having suicidal thoughts, it’s important that you seek help immediately.
24/7 Help is available at your fingertips: please call 1-800-273-8255 (National Suicide Prevention Lifeline) or visit them
at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ and ask for help.
You may also text ‘HOME’ to 741741 to connect with a Crisis Counselor.
If you are experiencing an emergency, please call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.
Life In Progress Psychological Services, PLLC does not offer emergency services.
Therapy can change your life if you let it…
Life In Progress
Dr. Nichole Vincent, PsyD
“I’m always looking for ways to help you have the best life possible. No matter what you have been through, I believe you can still have a life worth living that is full of meaning.” ~David Kessler
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